How does this relate to the link between self-confidence and body language? Without doubt, people who have high levels of self-confidence will demonstrate it in their body language. However, if you want to feel self-confident when you don’t, adopt the body language of someone who is. In other words: fake it until you make it.
When you exhibit these physical behaviours, you will start to change the mental behaviours and mental processes you adopt, which will then feed into your actions and underpin your physical behaviours – a virtuous cycle. You can then take this a step further: to fake it until you become it.
Neuroscience confirms what the Greek philosopher Aristotle thought: we are what we repeatedly do. When we adopt a behaviour and repeat it over time, changes occur in our brains. The neural pathways for that process expand, making the process easier. Behaviour becomes a habit, and what was at first a habit becomes normal behaviour.
Pause to reflect
- Think of people you know are are self-confident. How do they stand?
- What postures do they adopt?
- How do they hold their heads?
- What happens with their eyes and gaze?
- What else do they do?